You cannot always play the role of Wonder Woman. Can you be all things to all people? Not without burning out.
Here are 5 mindset shifts you can make to take care of yourself and recharge your tank.
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1. Release control and release the mommy guilt
Have you taken off that Wonder Woman shirt already? You don’t have to be all things to all people every moment of the day. That’s a recipe for an overwhelmed, stressed out, tired mama.
Release control and release mommy guilt or you may crack. You don’t have to do it all. It may be faster or easier if you do it yourself. But how is that helping in the long run? Accept help and walk away.
Allowing your children to step in and help teaches them valuable skills.
Plus, isn’t there something else you could be doing instead? Like taking a 15 min power nap!
2. Get rest and restoration
Speaking of naps… how you can give yourself the time away to recharge. Uninterrupted time, no “mommy, mommy, mommy!”
3. Listen to your own emotional cues. Don’t jump.
Moms are known to lose it sometimes. Don’t let yourself get to that point. This is easily preventable. Well, maybe not so easily sometimes, right? Still, it’s critically important for all the people who love you to have a mommy who has recharged her tank and is feeling centered and healthy.
4. Take little breaks to clear your head.
If you cannot get away for a weekend or even a day, just get away for a few hours. Do the little things to separate yourself from the source of your stress. Go for a walk, go window shopping. Head to the movies, get lost in a book. Remove yourself for a short time and find yourself feeling loads better upon your return.
5. Reconnect with your Lover.
Date again. Do the things you did that made you say, “Oh, this is the one I choose for life.” Go there again. Bring the heat back into the kitchen, so to speak. EVERYONE will be happier when you prioritize this relationship.
Your family deserves a mom that is happy and rested. Accept the help you need to get a break from mommy duty to rest and restore your sense of well-being.
You’ll be an even better mom when you do.
Remember, you are not alone.
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Until next time, be well.
Chandra of Laboy Joy
Chandra is the chocolate-chip loving mother of 2 teenage girls who started over again with a baby boy in her 40’s! She is the author of The Mom’s Playbook to Conquering Softball Season. She gives other moms the tools they need to prepare their daughters for real life. Her content is centered on helping girls grow up to be well-rounded, equipped, expressive, confident, intelligent, capable, kind and independent.